I like to poke fun at my mom when she’s upset about something and says, “I just don’t understand…” I usually laugh and interrupt with, “Yes, you do.” At 79 years of age, as well traveled and hard working as my mom is, there isn’t much she hasn’t seen or experienced, and too much of …
Meghan and Harry Can’t Win for Losing
So, everyone’s favorite couple – almost everyone – Meghan and Harry shocked the world this week when they announced plans to step back from senior roles in royal life, presumably to have a life, but also to work toward financial self-sufficiency. Sounds good, right? Who doesn’t want to be financially self-sufficient? But their decision has, like …
Your Communication Skills Can Always Improve
Last weekend I was at a friend’s house watching a horrible Korean film that shall remain unnamed. After all, one woman’s trash is another woman’s treasure, and all that. But I will say that everything that is critically acclaimed is not what it’s cracked up to be. The film’s lead character, someone I’ve seen and …
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Is Shut Up a Bad Word(s)?
The end of the year is prime time for reflection. People make resolutions, vowing to start new habits to enrich or improve – or both – their lives, and I’m no different. Except, I’ve already started. I have two big goals not just for 2020, but for the rest of my life, and they’re related: …
There’s Something They’re Not Telling You About All These Black Beauty Queens
It has been a historic year for black women in pageantry. We’ve seen black women take major crowns before but never in this volume, and never so many in one year. There are five Black women currently holding major pageant titles: Miss Teen USA, Kaliegh Garris, Miss Universe, Zozibini Tunzi, Miss America, Nia Franklin, Miss …
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Want to Win in 2020? You Need Clarity and Focus, and I Know How to Get It
So, remember how I mentioned a few blogs back that I’m writing a book about family and the impact they can have on you personally and professionally? Well, here’s a sample from my baby. Woo. It’s kind of exciting to share it. Scary as hell, but exciting. Lemme know what you think. This snippet is …
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A Black Woman’s Life Was Ruined by a WhatsApp Image She Didn’t Even See
I don’t want to believe that when people of color are excessively punished for the flimsiest crimes, it’s related to race. I tend to over examine situations because I don't want to be accused of pulling the race card. But sometimes there’s just no other reasonable explanation. These were my thoughts when I read the …
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Another Episode in the Life of a Black Female Unicorn
If I was a white woman, I think I would be considered quite normal. Maybe even boring? But because I’m a black woman, I’m abnormal. Or should I say, special. We’ll go with that. It sounds nicer. Maybe you know what I mean. If you’re a black woman who’s reasonably educated, works either in a …
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Friends Are the Family We Make for Ourselves
You guys may not know this, but I’m writing a book. I’ve written quite a few of them – romance novels that I sell in the Amazon Kindle store under a pen name – but this is my very first book under my name. It’s kind of a big deal for me. The subject matter …
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Even Smart Black People Make Mistakes About Race
My mother said something last Sunday that I can’t stop thinking about. She said, 'if I had it all to do over again, I wouldn’t have raised you in an all-white environment. It wasn’t good for you.' Then she shared a few stories from my early childhood, mostly school tales featuring my smart, but spoiled, …
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